Re-gifting on Mother’s Day? You would never! Oh, but you may have unintentionally been re-gifting for years. Being a mother, whether good or bad, is the ultimate gift that keeps on giving.
Merriam Webster dictionary defines a gift to be “something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation.” *
Mothers, whether they choose to see it or not, gift their children daily. Mom’s gifts can be numerous as well as varied. Gifts, as defined above, can be positive or negative. We ALL have been given our mother’s gifts, and we have carried these gifts into adulthood where we now must take an assessment and see: what have we been gifted with and what are we re-gifting?
A mother’s gift of love
When mothering is good and nurturing, it is a great gift to have in one’s life. Knowing that you will always have someone who loves you and thinks of you as precious and special even when the world seems against you, is like having that little something extra in you that keeps you going and fighting, even when you feel defeated. Mom’s arms can be a place of comfort to collapse in, to find peace, acceptance, and tenderness. The heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you choose to re-gift them?
Gifts of indifference, coldness, hurtfulness, and bitterness
Not everyone has had the mother who has been loving or encouraging. Some have had a mother who is indifferent, cold, hurtful, and/or bitter. These were her gifts to pass on to those who surrounded her. These gifts are like having a little something in you that leaves a questioning, a frustration, and a disturbance. They do not bare peace or acceptance. As unsettling as the idea is, the heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you choose to re-gift them?
Gift of encouragement
A mother can help guide a strong willed child into a person of conviction, leadership and strength. A child that thinks wildly can be loved for their imagination and shown how to express their creativity. A child that feels deeply can be shown how their compassion and giving can change the world. We come into this world with our own personality, but a mother can help us open our eyes to the talents and passions we posses. The heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you re-gift them?
Numerous or few, positive or negative, these qualities are all gifts. All were voluntarily given and passed down without compensation. So I will ask again, what are you re-gifting? What mark will you leave on this world and those that surround you?
If in your family, you did not receive the gift of love and encouragement, you can find yourself in the unique place of being able to give something very special. You can be the vessel which brings love and encouragement into a place it had not been before. Being the original giver of these gifts can be difficult, but is definitely worth the effort. And who knows, with your efforts, someone just might re-gift your gift.
To all the women out there that give so freely in love and encouragement, Happy Mother’s Day!
Amy Dubois’ an educator turned stay-at-home mom and entrepreneur. She’s the mother of three children, who bring her the greatest joy and challenges. Using her background in education and mothering, she’s developed a system to help parents discipline with consistency, clear consequences, dignity, and love. For more information visit www.MsBeehaveDesigns.com
*Source citation: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gift
Merriam Webster dictionary defines a gift to be “something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation.” *
Mothers, whether they choose to see it or not, gift their children daily. Mom’s gifts can be numerous as well as varied. Gifts, as defined above, can be positive or negative. We ALL have been given our mother’s gifts, and we have carried these gifts into adulthood where we now must take an assessment and see: what have we been gifted with and what are we re-gifting?
A mother’s gift of love
When mothering is good and nurturing, it is a great gift to have in one’s life. Knowing that you will always have someone who loves you and thinks of you as precious and special even when the world seems against you, is like having that little something extra in you that keeps you going and fighting, even when you feel defeated. Mom’s arms can be a place of comfort to collapse in, to find peace, acceptance, and tenderness. The heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you choose to re-gift them?
Gifts of indifference, coldness, hurtfulness, and bitterness
Not everyone has had the mother who has been loving or encouraging. Some have had a mother who is indifferent, cold, hurtful, and/or bitter. These were her gifts to pass on to those who surrounded her. These gifts are like having a little something in you that leaves a questioning, a frustration, and a disturbance. They do not bare peace or acceptance. As unsettling as the idea is, the heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you choose to re-gift them?
Gift of encouragement
A mother can help guide a strong willed child into a person of conviction, leadership and strength. A child that thinks wildly can be loved for their imagination and shown how to express their creativity. A child that feels deeply can be shown how their compassion and giving can change the world. We come into this world with our own personality, but a mother can help us open our eyes to the talents and passions we posses. The heart of a mother can give these gifts; do you re-gift them?
Numerous or few, positive or negative, these qualities are all gifts. All were voluntarily given and passed down without compensation. So I will ask again, what are you re-gifting? What mark will you leave on this world and those that surround you?
If in your family, you did not receive the gift of love and encouragement, you can find yourself in the unique place of being able to give something very special. You can be the vessel which brings love and encouragement into a place it had not been before. Being the original giver of these gifts can be difficult, but is definitely worth the effort. And who knows, with your efforts, someone just might re-gift your gift.
To all the women out there that give so freely in love and encouragement, Happy Mother’s Day!
Amy Dubois’ an educator turned stay-at-home mom and entrepreneur. She’s the mother of three children, who bring her the greatest joy and challenges. Using her background in education and mothering, she’s developed a system to help parents discipline with consistency, clear consequences, dignity, and love. For more information visit www.MsBeehaveDesigns.com
*Source citation: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/gift
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