How to Create a Successful Quiet Time

So your beloved child has stopped napping, but the need for quiet independent play is still desired, right? How do you teach quiet time?

A lot of times when it comes to creating a Quiet Time (QT) in our homes we think that if we just find the “right” toy to hold our child’s interest, then we will have be able to create a successful quiet time. While I will agree that your child needs quiet activities that they enjoy, there is a whole lot more to making quiet time work in your home.

Now those of you who have a toddler that is waning in and out of needing a nap, NOW is the perfect time to introduce Quiet Time procedures. Those of you with older children that are not accustomed to a nap or quiet time period during the day, you might have a little more work to do in order to get everyone on board with the idea. But it will be worth it in the end. As with any goal, we need to do a little planning. Here we go!

Your child needs to clearly understand the boundaries of quiet time. It’s is only fair to them, that they know what signals the completion of quiet time. Communication and reinforcement of the rules are key.

Your mission: Quiet Time (QT)
Definition: Independent play, confined to a specific area, without the use of TV or Computer, for a specific amount of time. (I am not against TV or Computers, but I want to be as clear as possible about what we are trying to accomplish for this particular subject.)
The rules: Where can I go, what can be played with and how do I know when it is over?

Specific Area: Here is an area where you can give your child choice and creativity. You can make Quiet time as basic or complex as you would like. Your QT area can be contained to a room, a bed, or a created QT spot. If your child is one that is transitioning out of the napping stage, you might want to confine QT to the bed. This way if their body does need rest, they will more than likely fall asleep during this time. You can also create a very comfy spot for QT that is not in the bed but does lend itself greatly to sleepy time. For example you can use a beach towel and pillows, a large cardboard box, or pop-up tent to be the place where QT is happening. The box is fun because you can (cut) sculpt the sides of the box and take off the top to make your own princess bed or car, etc. Your child can help decorate the box that will be their very own special place for this time. But as I mentioned earlier, a simple towel and pillow will do the same thing.

What can be played with: A younger child that has a more confined place for QT needs to have acceptable toys and activities in their area (books, aqua doodle, etc.) The older the child, the more space and activities should be available to them. When it comes to selecting QT activities it is good to have a few acceptable parent choices for the child to choose from. Give them some ownership that works within your goals for QT. Keeping some toys/activities as QT only activities, will help to make the activity special and hold interest longer.

Time: Obviously you can use a timer or clock alarm to signal the end of quiet time. However, my favorite device is music (books on tape are good too.) With either book or music, keep in mind tone and time. (If this is quiet time, you want an atmosphere that is calming and soothing rather than loud and simulating. Set the mood with relaxing music and dim light.) The great thing about using music or audio stories is that it will remind your child that it is quiet time and will let your child know when QT is over.

Lastly you will need to think about consequences to not complying with QT rules. A child that has the free of choice in his room but refuses to engage in quiet activities (think super action hero time) or repeated leaves the room, might find his QT time privileges restricted in choice and area (aka: you can now only read books and you must stay in bed.) Leaving the room for unnecessary reasons can “restart the timer.” There are many different scenarios and consequences you can come up with, but keep in mind that you want to keep your objective in mind. “Beloved child, we will have QT. QT is over when the music/timer is over. If you choose to disobey, the consequence is _________.” Just remember consequences serve to relate your child’s actions to a change in their environment. Consequences to negative behavior brings forth a loss of something of value (permenantly or for a set period of time), or brings forth a gain of something unwanted (extra work, more time in an undesired activity, alone time, etc.)

Needless to state, Quiet Time is a gift to a parent or caregiver; but it is also a gift to your child because it allows them the chance to play, think, and create on their own. Set the boundaries, communicate your expectations and hold them accountable to their choices. Most importantly have a loving day and a happy Quiet Time!

How do YOU create Quiet Time? Have you ever thought you were having a great Quiet Time moment, only to find your beloved child passed out on the floor asleep covered in marker? Have you got some great QT stories or ideas you would like to share? Speak up and post!


Amy Dubois’ an educator turned stay-at-home mom and entrepreneur. She’s the mother of three children, who bring her the greatest joy and challenges. Using her background in education and mothering, she’s developed a system to help parents discipline with consistency, clear consequences, dignity, and love. For more information visit http://www.msbeehavedesigns.com Copyright © 2006-2008 Ms Beehave Designs, LLC. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be freely reproduced, edited, or published without consent.

Preschool: What You Get for the Money

Am I prepared for the financial burden? Will my child be accepted into the program? I just hope I have the registration packet in on time. Even if I did register correctly, if I don’t win the lottery, then my child won’t have a chance of going. Yes, I’m worried about college…but right now, I’m freaking out about preschool.

It’s that time of year again, preschool registration. For those of you whose child is going to preschool in the fall, the time to register is now. So, how do you choose the best preschool?

I love watching “What you get for the Money” on the Fine Living channel. It’s a show that gives one price line, say $450,000, and shows what kind of home you could have in different parts of the country. Some homes have ample space and beautiful views. Other homes may be a one bedroom loft in the heart of a major city. If I could only find, “What you get for the Money: Preschool edition.”

So what do you get for the money? The answer: Socialization, Exploration, and Preparation.

Socialization
For 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s socialization is a huge part of preschool. Now before you roll eyes and say, “For the amount of money I’m paying for school, my child had better come home with more than knowing how to sit criss-cross-applesauce on a carpet square!” But you see the child going into a kindergarten setting already knowing basic group social rules is at an advantage. Children in preschool learn how to interact with teacher and peers by practicing the following skills:
* Conflict resolution: Sharing and waiting your turn
* Group movement: Waiting in line, sitting in a group to share information, transitioning to new activities
* Speaking manners: shouting out, inside voice, etc
* Body manners: keeping hands and feet to themselves

You may have an incredibly intelligent and talented child; however, if they do not have appropriate social skills, this will be an area in which they will not feel successful. Sometimes these skills can seem trivial to us as adults. They seem so basic and easy to learn. For a young child these skills must be practiced. Preschool is a great place to learn these skills in a patient environment.

Exploration
Yep, pretty much no matter how much money you spend, your child will explore their environment to learn the world around them. This is why an inviting, well defined room is important. Look for well planned centers of learning. Common ones you will see will be areas exploring shapes, colors, books, letters, numbers, building, sorting, and pretend play. You should see a gathering area where days and months of the year are discussed, books are read, and ideas and information are shared. Your child will be encouraged to play with everything, but if your child does not want to do the activity, they will not or should not be made to do the activity. This is especially true for the 2’s and 3’s age range. The 4’s will be directed to spend time in all areas, but it is low pressure learning environment.

Kindergarten preparation
For the four year old child, this is the reason you are sending them to preschool. Socialization is still important and you will still see an environment that is exploratory through centers. But you should also see a class that is being prepared for kindergarten. This is where curriculum comes in.

What do I mean by curriculum? The preschool should have a defined plan of what skills will be taught to your child. If the school cannot tell you their educational objectives for your child, be concerned. I like to know what will be covered in the Kindergarten class, so that as I’m hearing and seeing what is being taught in the preschool, I will have a good feel for whether or not it will lay a good foundation for Kindergarten. Find this information using a search engine on the internet (Example search: Kindergarten standards for NC).

Getting started
Decide how much money is appropriate for your family to put into exploratory based learning. Your child does need a good foundation for their education, but overstretching your family’s finances creates tension at home; ultimately not benefiting your child’s at home environment. Another consideration, how many days a week will your child attend? For the 2 and 3’s, whatever you and your child are comfortable with is appropriate. For the 4’s, they do better with four to five days a week. Why? Repetition and routine are the best learning environments for your child. You may be able to afford “the best” preschool but only at the two day a week level. Your four year old will retain more information from a less expensive 4 to 5 day program.

Get a list of preschools in your area and ask people where they send their children.

Out of the schools receiving a positive review, call the preschool and set up an appointment for a tour. Make sure you get to see the school in action. (Use the chart below as your guide.)

Ask what the school’s educational goals are for their students. If you are checking the preschool out for your two or three year old, be sure to observe the four year olds as well if you desire to keep your child in their school program in subsequent years.

Trust your gut. You will know by the way you feel walking through the school whether or not your child could feel accepted and excited about learning.

When selecting a preschool, here are the areas to look at:
* Clean and safe facility
* Low teacher/student ratio
* Low teacher turnover
* Security (Pick up procedure. How is the facility secured?)
* Curriculum (What skills and information are covered?)
* Licensed by the state
* Staff background checks
* Staff’s credentials (2 yrs of college, background in education, how do they select their teachers or train their teachers?)
* Classroom is well defined (Can tell how the room functions?)
* Infection control and prevention (Sick child policy, hand washing/sanitizing routine)
* Atmosphere (Are teachers engaging with students or just watching? Do students and staff seem happy? Is there a feeling of chaos and tension?)

A clean, well planned environment with a patient and enthusiastic teachers is what you should get for the money. Just don’t break the bank trying to get it. I’ve seen greatness at different price levels. More money can improve aesthetics of the facility and centers, as well as the credential requirements of the staff. But the basics should be covered at all preschools no matter what the price.

I do have a great chart that lets you evaluate three schools that you are looking at based on the above criteria; however I cannot seem to get the chart to appear in the blog. You can see the chart with this article at: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/preschool-what-you-get-for-the-money-164950/

Amy Dubois’ an educator turned stay-at-home mom and entrepreneur. She’s the mother of three children, who bring her the greatest joy and challenges.
Using her background in education and mothering, she’s developed a system to help parents discipline with consistency, clear consequences, dignity, and love. For more information visit www.MsBeehaveDesigns.com